It would seem that I’m expert at tuning out my kids.
But in my defense, after having six, I’ve rationalized that it’s a survival skill. (Just kidding – sort of.)
When my teens talk, I hear every word they say. My young adult kids – I’m practically begging some of them for words! But my younger ones never seem to stop talking. And I’ve learned over the years that I’ve become pretty adept at tuning out the sounds that come out of their mouth. “WHAT!! When did I say you could have 15 cookies?!”
There are so many lovely voices and worthwhile activities competing for our interests as moms; and honestly, If I’m not careful, I’ll be completely swept-up and carried off by them.
I love blogging. It’s a privilege to be able to communicate the message of hope and healing that Christ is able to bring to all families; but if I’m not careful I’ll type my life away and miss all of the “could have been” moments, when all my kids really needed was a mom who was “present,” who was there in the moment – creating moments.
If you hang around this blog long enough, you’ll soon discover that I love Little House on the Prairie (Writen by Laura Ingalls). Laura’s family lived such a simple life. They didn’t have much, but they had each other; and for Laura, that was more than enough – that was abundance.
Laura lived in the abundance of her family’s love.
If Laura’s mother was distracted at all, it was with all of the cooking and cleaning and sewing and farm work necessary for an early American pioneer family to survive in the mid west.
Laura lived a no frills kind of life. She made candy out of snow. She made balloons out of hog intestine. She made dolls out of corn. She played in the dirt. She swam in the creek. She fished. She and her sister sometimes shared one cup for their meals.
Yet, her accounts of childhood are happy and filled with joy and love and laughter. She had such a profound sense of gratitude for what she did have. Yeah, there were tough times, but the strength of her families love and their faith in God got them through the toughest of times – which weren’t in short supply.
Despite their “lack” of earthly possessions, Charles and Caroline Ingalls (Laura’s parents) managed to raise a child who’s recollection of her childhood would one day profoundly impact American literature and delight countless generations.
Do you think they knew that was happening?
This is the life that Laura remembered.
I wonder what my kids will remember.
I wonder what kind of mark I’m leaving on my children. I wonder if they could grow-up to write such books. No, not if they’d have the skill – but would they have the heart.
I wonder if they wouldn’t rise to the occasion because I was simply too busy . . . too busy to give them my full attention. Too busy doing something else “good.” Too busy realizing my dreams. Too busy thinking that I will have a chance to hear what I’ve missed (from unconsciously tuning them out) when they become teens and young adults.
Sometimes I’m frustrated about the lack of progress I’m making on my own initiatives – on things that make me happy and fulfilled as an individual. Even my calling (to write to encourage women) can distract me from being available to them. I have to continually remind myself that my first calling is to my family, so whatever it is that I think I must communicate through this website can wait. It’s really not that important if I’m not busy creating a home-life that could one day inspire them to change their world.
This is how I want them to remember me. And I hope to give them plenty of “Little House” lovin’ to inspire them!
Holla Back!:::What about you? Do you struggle to find the balance between “good mom” and “productive mom”? What are you thoughts, struggles or successes in providing a “mommy is distracted” free home? Post a comment below to share!