Yes, I have a big reveal for the one thing your husband MUST HAVE this Valentine’s Day.
But before we get so deep . . . a little birdie just told me that your hubby wants you to let him kick-back and enjoy his favorite show with his favorite beverage – super chilled!
He wants you to cook him a great steak (with fatty mashed potatoes) and not talk about his gut, his diet or the calories.
He wants you to give him a “clean whatever-it-is-that-he-usually-cleans” pass (that’s good for at least a week!). These guys are super simple and easy to please.
And if you cook this Valentine’s Day, remember to wear your flirty apron (with stilettos and fish-net stockings) – but clothing is optional! (Umm . . . get rid of the kids first.) 😉
Because, what he wants – MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE – is you…all wrapped up in a bow, wearing only your birthday suit! (But you already knew that, right?) Again, they are super easy to please. Keep it simple and speak their language. They use very few words – grunt mostly – and are very visual. Keep. It. Simple!
Now onto the big reveal!
Because I’m a woman, I have to over-analyze and complicate this matter. So, it’s time to get all deep and cerebral and talk about things that don’t involve “birthday suits” – but your husband will appreciate it just as much – if not more. (Am I kidding?! This “MUST HAVE” will actually run neck-and-neck with nakedness and stilettos and flirty aprons – which, by the way, I will not be wearing – but they are soooo cute!) Keep reading, your almost there.
I’ve read and heard preached the story of Hannah in the Bible multiple times. You know, the one about the woman who could not conceive, and vowed to the Lord that if He gave her a child she would, in return, dedicate him unto the Lord? Yes, that Hannah.
Well, Hannah was pretty miserable about being barren, and she was married to Elkinah, who had another wife named Peninnah. Because Peninnah had kids (and she was petty and jealous and evil – I embellished) she taunted Hannah endlessly because she had none. So, one day, when Hannah could take no more she got super depressed and sobbed bitterly and refused to eat. And when Eklinah saw Hannah sitting and weeping bitterly he said something to her that has always baffled me – I’ve never known what to make of it.
He said, “Hannah, why are you weeping? Why don’t you eat? Why are you downhearted? DON’T I MEAN MORE TO YOU THAN TEN SONS?” (I Samuel 1:8 – emphasis mine.)
I’ve never really known what to make of that. Did her husband really think that his love for her could replace the emptiness she felt in her womb? Could he replace her longing to cradle a baby in her arms? Could he satisfy her desire to nurse a baby at her breasts? What exactly was Elkinah trying to say?!
Well, I recently heard a Pastor’s take on this scripture…and I have to say…it makes total sense to me now. And it got me to thinking that the very thing Elkinah was trying to convey to his wife is the very thing every husband MUST HAVE for Valentine’s Day. And that’s . . . wait for it . . . wait for it . . . APPRECIATION!
Most husbands put it all out there for their wife and kids. They work hard to provide and they come home and lay it all on the table. And honestly, they just want to know if they are enough. They want to know that they are appreciated. They want to know that we are thankful.
Elkinah loved his wife fiercely (his love for her leaps out between the verses of scripture). She wasn’t able to give him children and it DIDN’T AFFECT his love for her one bit! Peninnah gave him kids; yet when it was time for Elkinah to sacrifice, he gave Peninnah and her kids their meat portion, “but to Hannah he gave a double portion because he loved her” (1 Samuel 1:5). I love to read about this kind of love! Every woman wants to be loved like this.
There was simply nothing more that Elkinah could do . . . nothing more that he could give, no more love that he could muster-up. He gave his ALL – in provision and love.
He knew that he loved Hannah abundantly! Now, all he wanted to know was WHY WASN’T HE ENOUGH?
What more do we want ladies? Do we make excuses for the humble status of our home when company comes over? Do we make apologies for our humble furnishings? Is our beat-up and broken-down minivan sufficient? Do we indirectly remind our husbands that the life we are living is different than the one we had originally envisioned for ourselves?
Appreciation is the gift that will keep on giving; long after the flowers have withered, long after the dinner you’ve cooked has been consumed.
Your thankful heart builds-up your husband! It fortifies him. It inoculates him from a world which burdens and from women who lurk to ravish him.
This Valentine’s Day tell your husband, “Thank you.” Then, begin to live out “Thank you” in a thousand little ways: express it with your hands – as he passes by and you touch him; say it with your eyes – as they look pleasingly at him and linger a bit longer than usual; speak well of him in front of the kids; and extol his virtue when talking to your neighbors.
Give him the gift that says: “You are enough. I appreciate you. Thank you.” If you do, one day he just might “arise and call
her [you] blessed; and praise you” (Proverbs 31:28 – strike-through and [you] is mine).
The Proverbs 31 woman | A wife of noble character . . .
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
23Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
28Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
Ladies, Holla Back!:::Does this make sense – suggesting a free, no cost “gift” for Valentine’s Day? Have I gone too far? Have I assumed too much? What are your plans for Valentine’s Day? Post a comment to share or join the conversation on Facebook!
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