How to Build Your Home with Biblical Wisdom

I’m not sure if you know this, but I’m a recovering family-life flunky.

You see, in the beginning of my journey as a wife and mom I was NOT “crushing” it. Matter of fact, family life was crushing me!

I wanted out of my marriage. I didn’t appreciate motherhood. I was displeased with the course that my life had taken.

But because of my relationship with Christ I stuck it out, and deep down inside I knew that God’s word offered something more . . . something better than what I was experiencing as a wife and mom.

Help from Above

As time passed, I began to cry out to the Lord and seek Him for wisdom and insight concerning family life.

It was really a hard road for me. Not because the circumstances of my life were different than anyone else’s, but because my mind was so poorly oriented to the word of God.

As I grew as a Christian, as I drew closer to God and consumed more of His word, I began to respond differently to my circumstances. I began to think and behave differently as a wife and mom.

As a result, I began to see the fruit of righteousness in my home: peace, forgiveness, love, unity, and laughter.

Not a Sprint, but a Marathon

This growth didn’t occur over night, but the transformation that has happened in my life – morphing from a sissy mom, who once hid on the side of her bed, crying her eyeballs out while in crisis mode, waving her white, parental flag of surrender into a woman who is now imperfectly, yet passionately, applying biblical wisdom in her home – is notable!

(Just ask my husband and kids. I don’t bear the name of Psycho Mom for no good reason. I was a HOT mess!)

One happy Psycho Mom

So after many years, a lot of tears, and many regrettable moments.

After crying out to the Lord, seeking His face, and investigating His word.

After experiencing the fruit of righteousness in my home . . .

I’ve finally created a free, tangible resource to help women overcome the obstacles I’ve faced and build up their home. 

Enter in “A Wise Woman Builds: The Art of Building a Godly Home.”

Beloved, I poured my heart and soul into this eBook!

It’s chock full of the nuggets of insight the Lord has given me on building my home wisely – which is probably why it’s only 20 pages long!

No seriously; all jokes aside, I was just reading through it and I’m very pleased with it from a spiritually academic and design standpoint (all thanks and praise to God).

The Path of Wisdom

The entire eBook is predicated upon the following passage of scripture:

The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. Proverbs 14:1

From this Biblical proverb we learn three things:

  1. A home can be built up, or it can be torn down,
  2. wisdom builds a home, but foolishness destroys it, and 
  3. a woman must choose which of these two paths she will take.

The Art of Building A Godly Home is a companion resource for the woman who chooses the path of wisdom!

Why Art Precedes Act(ion)

As a wise woman traverses the path of wisdom, she discovers it is necessary to explore the art of home building before engaging in the act of home building.

By “art” I am referring to the thoughts and attitudes that govern and shape the way we choose to build our home, which precedes, and is to be distinguished from the “act” of home building.

Let’s use a random home builder as an example:

  • Why, as a builder, does she choose a particular design?
  • What factors influence the way she drafts her blue prints?
  • What thought process guides her choice of tools and building materials?

We can be sure that her choices were made based on her construct of what is beautiful and her knowledge of design. 

This is why it’s critical, as wise women, that we orient our minds to think Biblically, as it influences how we build our home.

The Art of Building a Godly Home provides a framework to help you to do just that!

Folly Equals Disastrous Results

Just imagine the outcome if that same builder drafted blue prints that were not mathematically sound. (Yikes!)

Or she tried to ground a nail with a screw driver instead of her hammer? (Wrong tool!)

What if her mentality led her to cut corners instead of working with a spirit of excellence? (Poor workmanship.)

Just imagine what would happen if she didn’t understand the significance of “foundation” and built her home on a sink hole!

Just like this builder, our attitude influences our choices. For this very reason, laying a foundation for a successful build is what the art of building is all about.

What you’ll learn from The Art of Building A Godly Home:

  • How to acquire the wisdom you need to be a wise home builder.
  • Why it’s essential to build your life upon Biblical precepts.
  • The necessity of cultivating a Biblical worldview.
  • How your worldview impacts the quality of your workmanship.

Bonus material to help you build wisely!

The Art of Building a Godly Home also includes bonus material to encourage and motivate you:

  • The Wise Woman Builds Manifesto is a home building deceleration for the woman who is resolute about building wisely.
  • The Wise Woman Builds Her House Scripture Art is a beautiful reminder of how wisdom builds your home.
  • The Art of Home Building Bible Scripture Cards are key verses from the study to build your faith and transform your mind.

Download your free copy today! 

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  1. Hi, Tiffiney! Thanks for sharing your post on Grace & Truth. I enjoyed it and I have chosen it as my feature for this week. Head on over to my site tomorrow to get the “I Was Featured” button. Also, if you could make sure the back-link to Grace & Truth is up-to-date, I’d appreciate it greatly! The host you have linked is no longer participating – thanks!

    • Hey Aimee, thank you for sharing the life changing truth of God’s word with other women through this post. I so appreciate being featured and feel so blessed by it. (I will correct the link.) ?

  2. Such a great topic for women. We most definitely need to have the right tools and blueprint. I know that I too had some disastrous outcomes as a younger wife and mom. It took me down a hard road. To know now that what i really was doing all wrong was that I was not fully seeking God with a surrendered heart. I am so very thankful that God will always help us pick up the pieces of tornado struck life and help us put them back together. This post also spoke another thought the Lord has been speaking to me about a particular project so that was a added blessing I received in reading this. #freshmarketfridaylinkup

    • Hey April, I love knowing that no matter how bad things were, God works it for our good. I thank Him for His grace.

  3. Congrats on the book! You are exactly right – marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. So glad to read that you are now winning the race in your marriage. I have been running with my hubby for over 40 years now.

  4. Congrats on your book! It seems like something that so many of us can benefit from. Isn’t it amazing that God uses all the things (even the hardest ones) and turns them into something beautiful!

  5. This reminds me of psalm 127- unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labor in vain. I have been the hot mess mama too and God was definitely not who was directing my build. This is a great reminder.

    • From one hot mess to another, I’m so glad we have Jesus Christ and God’s grace helping us through! Blessings to you, Danell.

  6. Tiffiney, I’m so very happy for you about the release of this book baby of yours. I just know it will bless many moms (including me!) so I’ll be sharing it on Pinterest, Facebook and Twitter.

    Blessings to you, dear friend.

    • Thank you, Marva. I appreciate your shares. I really hope that it will inspire even seasoned wives and moms in their journey. Happy Reading!

  7. Wow, my friend, you are producing!! Fruit from your life of craziness is going to reach many who need your wise words! So proud of you and the graphics are so pretty. Are you speaking at your church yet? Try MOPS in the area. All young moms need to hear this (and some old ones) xoxo

    • Sue, I so appreciate you. You make me laugh, always! Could you imagine that anything good could come from my crazy life? What a God we serve! And thanks for the MOPS recommendation. Looking forward to reading your next blog post or newsletter. 🙂

    • “Failure is only one part of our story – and it doesn’t get the last word?” Love it! Thanks so much for those sage words of wisdom, Michele.

  8. I loved your e-book, Tiffiney, and I know it will be a big help to others, if they just take the time to download and read it! I love your honesty about how difficult it was for you in the beginning to overcome the challenges of being a new wife and mother. I’m glad you are sharing your insights with others. I love the peek into your life and how you continue to overcome life’s challenges!

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