So…I’m really, really tired . . .
and I’m supposed to stay up and blog away so I can put out posts with some degree of regularity…enough regularity to make readers come back on a regular basis.
But I’ve one question . . .
How do you do that when you’re so tired from all the mommy hats your wear all day?
Today’s post is not about 20 Ways to Have a Better (fill in the blank) or 10 Fool Proof Marriage Tips or anything silly like that (maybe tomorrow, but not today!).
Today’s post is about what most of us mothers experience on a daily basis: It’s about how we keep going and put one foot in front of the other when we’re so fatigued that we can’t see straight! It’s about how we do this amazing thing called motherhood when we are angry, confused, afraid, stressed out and trying to make sense of it all – and not be phony – it’s about how we need to keep it real?
It’s late! And I’m sitting in my pj’s and my hair looks like I stuck my finger into an electric socket. It should – it’s way past the bedtime of most normal people.
I started my day with homeschool co-op (which was amazing!) and afterwards I ran errands, did some administrative work, spent time with the family and then ran out for groceries. We finished up the evening eating Cocoa Pebbles cereal because I’m coo coo for Cocoa puffs and I always make certain that my kids have a nutritious and well-balanced meal – or not! (I’m not so sure Michelle Obama would approve.)
What made today’s homeschool co-op so amazing? A group of us mommies were sitting around having coffee and sharing about our perceived failures, yet glorifying God for His goodness.
The most amazing thing happens when Christian women get together: they share candidly and transparently and let their holy, yet knotted and tangled hair down. They take the “S” off of their chests – the “S” that stands for Super Mom. Sisters that you didn’t even know could talk above a whisper are sharing from the depths of their heart and bearing their soul; and in their sharing you hear your story – the one you’ve never told anyone from fear of being judged and scorned by other Christian woman.
You sit there listening…and everything in your spirit bears witness with what’s being said…and all of a sudden you feel like you have permission to be real – to be your REAL self – to not be someone who puts on a front to appear super spiritual – or even mildly spiritual!
You hear about those proverbial miles walked on painful emotional roads in moccasins that you hope you never have to wear…and the one common thread in each and every sharing is how God was faithful and ever present, even when we were unfaithful and tried to run as far away from Him as we could.
This post is for the REAL mom…the one who wanted to read her Bible at the crack of dawn, but fell into bed two hours prior, rocking a colicky baby to sleep. When she finally awakens, her kids keep her busy with spills and diaper changes and feedings, and all the while she’s telling herself she’s going to get to her Bible. And then it’s time for dinner and to please Dad, and to clean up, and bathe and put the kids to bed. All of a sudden it’s 10pm and the Bible finally opens while she’s sitting up in bed, but her head drops right between its parted pages – she’s out like a light! And she lives everyday feeling inadequate when comparing herself to other Christian moms.
What a farce!
Dear Christian Mom: You have permission to keep-it-real!
We are REAL Christian moms . . .
We drop the proverbial ball.
We eat cereal for dinner.
We feel like failures.
We are certain we’re screwing up the kids.
We only wash laundry when we run out of underwear.
We frustrate our husbands.
We are not perfect!
But we always hear our Father’s voice: the one compelling us to come aside and to be with Him. The voice that reassures us that He loves us – NO MATTER WHAT! The voice that reminds us that even the ugliest version of ourselves couldn’t scare Him away and that we are forever His, so we can stop all the fretting and living a works-oriented Christian life – an “Abba Father, am I good enough for you?” life.
Somehow, Father God takes all of our fatigue, mess, uncertainty and “worst-day-ever’s” and weaves it into a tapestry of beauty – by His great grace and for His glory.
Good night, Ms. Messy, Beautiful, Forgiven and Perfect in Christ – You!
Let’s keep the conversation going: I’d love to hear how you manage to “keep it real” with all the challenges you face as a mom in your day-to-day-parenting. Post a comment below to share.
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