As women, we’re generally wild about romance. We’re hooked on happily ever after. We’re ecstatic about erotic love, and we’re over-the-top about creating our own personal Once-Upon-a-Time fairy tale marriage.
And while there’s nothing wrong with embracing and nurturing romance, that’s not all there is to marriage – romantic love and fairy tale endings.
A good number of us married gals quickly discover that the good comes with the bad; the “better” really does accompany the “worse.”
Yes, suffering has its place in marriage, too.
So, this post is not about how to make your marriage glorious; it’s about how to endure a bad oneΒ because they both have their place of importance in marriage.
The Dangers of Worldly Wisdom
If you’d rather have a root canal than talk about the prospect of not only having a bad marriage, but enduring one, I get you! This is like taking nasty medicine that doesn’t go down easily, but it’s medicine nonetheless.
It’s medicine because there are so many wives today who are walking away from their marriage and destroying their family – all because they are subscribing to worldly wisdom.
They tell themselves, “I can do bad all by myself.”
They prioritize their happiness over righteousness.
I’ve heard a woman say she divorced her husband because she was getting “smaller and smaller,” while he was becoming “bigger and bigger.”
Another mother of two told me she ended her marriage because she was “loosing” herself in the process of being married to her husband.
If you examine the last two statements, you’ll notice these women are saying the same thing, and I can relate to them 100%.
They are referencing emotional smallness and a loss of personal self, in the absence of marital fulfillment.
How do I know this?
I know this because . . . (read the rest of this post at Married By His Grace, where I’m happily guest posting today).
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Additional Marriage Encouragement from Welcome Home Ministry:
- When Unforgiveness Hijacks Your Heart and Holds it Hostage
- 4 Amazingly Effective Ways to Manage Pain in Marriage
- Fighting for “Happily Ever After” in Your Marriage
- Giving Your Husband Love He *Doesn’t* Deserve
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Thank you for being so humble and open Tiffiney! There is wisdom in a multitude of counselors and iron sharpens iron. Thanks for sharing. I know many will be blessed. May God keep using you and bless the works of your hands!
This post is so necessary today!! The world paints a pretty picture of moving on but in reality a lot of ugly can come out of tossing aside Holy vows. I did that and fell into the trap of lies. It is only by God’s grace and learning from my mistakes in my first marriage that I was able to withstand the heartbreak in my 2nd but because I chose to stick it out God did intervene. He did give me redeeming grace in my 2nd marriage and created a beauty from the ashes that both my husband and I burned. We now have a beauty in our union with God and each other. I can tell you from doing it both ways…..learning how to suffer in your marriage while holding onto God is the better choice. God will do something more amazing with that choice!!
Thanks for sharing, April. I couldn’t have said it any better. π
Thanks for sharing, Tiffiney. Blessings to you!
Thanks for stopping by, Boma!
Looks wonderful, Tiffany. I’m heading over to read the rest of the post now!
Hope it’s a blessing to you, Laurie!