I really want you to read this post. That’s because I’m going to share with you the single best thing you can do to thrive in marriage and motherhood.
So, if your goal is to be the best wife and mom possible, while building your home according to Biblical wisdom, then keep reading because this post can be a game changer for you!
My Burning Question
One of the first things I wanted to know as a young Christian woman was: What does God require of me as a wife and mom?
It all seemed like a mystery – knowing what God expected of me. I thought I only had one chance to get this marriage and motherhood thing right. I just had to know!
There were so many questions I needed answers to . . .
- Should I work outside of the home or be a stay-at-home mom?
- What is my responsibility and obligation to my husband, other than to love and obey him?
- Does biblical submission mean my husband makes all of our major life decisions, whether I like it or not?
The questions never stopped coming . . .
- How do I discipline my children according to Scripture?
- What family routines and traditions should I begin?
- How do I nurture in my children a love for God?
Ultimately, the million dollar question I was asking was . . .
Q. What should I do so that my husband and children will one day arise and call me blessed??
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…” (Proverbs 31:28)
The questions consumed me. I just wanted someone to make it all crystal clear.
We Bow to Rise
By design, marriage and motherhood will bring us to our knees – but it’s there on our knees that we find comfort, guidance and strength from a gracious and loving God who, thankfully, desires for us to excel as wives and moms more than we do.
- It’s through prayer that principalities and spirits are cast down in our home. (Ephesians 6:10-18)
- It’s by reading the Bible that we discover God’s heart for our home. (Proverbs 24:3-4)
- It’s by meditating on God’s word that we receive wisdom and discernment in matters pertaining to family life. (James 1:5-6)
So while I never got clear cut answers to my questions, I did come to realize that the Bible is chock full of wisdom and guidance on matters pertaining to heart and home, and if I stay connected to the Giver of Wisdom, I will receive insight for my journey as a wife and mom.
Thankfully, I began to cultivate specific habits which brought life into my home.
But of all the habits I’ve learned to cultivate as a Christian wife and mom, there is one habit that stands out above the rest.
Honestly, it would not be an overstatement to say that if I don’t nurture this particular habit, I won’t have the heart, the inclination, or the power to live out the others.
And just what is that habit? It is to make my relationship with God my first priority!
No Christian mom is going to excel in marriage and motherhood without walking closely with God.
→ The only reason I care as much as I do about being a godly wife and mom, is because of the work of the Holy Spirit in my life. (Romans 8:29)
→ The reason I know what my standard should be as a wife and mom is by looking into the mirror of God’s word. (James 1:22-25)
→ The reason I’m able to get back up and keep going – after I’ve been emotionally knocked down by storms of life – is because God’s word challenges me and the Holy Spirit empowers me. (Matthew 7:24-27)
→ The reason I haven’t lost the most valuable relationships in my life – that of my family – is because I’ve learned to forgive, over and over. (Matthew 18:21-22)
Are you noticing a pattern here?
Jesus is my secret sauce. Period!
People talk about needing their morning cup of coffee like it’s a drug. Well, I need my morning cup of Jesus because I am one Bible scripture and one prayer away from being that mom who flew over the cuckoo’s nest. And there’s no shame in my game about admitting it.
So I nurse my relationship with God daily because Psycho Mom is NOT a pretty person, and my husband doesn’t like casting out spirits. 😉
I keep her at bay by spending time with God in prayer and worship, and by establishing the daily habit of reading my Bible.
Bottom line: my husband gets a better wife, and my children get a better mom when I give God his rightful place in my heart and my day.
Remember: The key to experiencing God’s love, peace, and joy in our home – the key to thriving in marriage and motherhood like a BOSS! – is by making God our first priority.
“O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is;” (Psalm 63:1, KJV)
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