Thrive in Marriage and Motherhood with This Life Giving Habit

I really want you to read this post. That’s because I’m going to share with you the single best thing you can do to thrive in marriage and motherhood.

So, if your goal is to be the best wife and mom possible, while building your home according to Biblical wisdom, then keep reading because this post can be a game changer for you! 

My Burning Question

One of the first things I wanted to know as a young Christian woman was: What does God require of me as a wife and mom?

It all seemed like a mystery – knowing what God expected of me. I thought I only had one chance to get this marriage and motherhood thing right. I just had to know!

There were so many questions I needed answers to . . . 

  • Should I work outside of the home or be a stay-at-home mom?
  • What is my responsibility and obligation to my husband, other than to love and obey him?
  • Does biblical submission mean my husband makes all of our major life decisions, whether I like it or not?

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The questions never stopped coming . . .

  • How do I discipline my children according to Scripture?
  • What family routines and traditions should I begin?
  • How do I nurture in my children a love for God?

Ultimately, the million dollar question I was asking was . . .

Q. What should I do so that my husband and children will one day arise and call me blessed??

“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her…” (Proverbs 31:28)

The questions consumed me. I just wanted someone to make it all crystal clear.

We Bow to Rise

By design, marriage and motherhood will bring us to our knees – but it’s there on our knees that we find comfort, guidance and strength from a gracious and loving God who, thankfully, desires for us to excel as wives and moms more than we do.

  • It’s through prayer that principalities and spirits are cast down in our home. (Ephesians 6:10-18)
  • It’s by reading the Bible that we discover God’s heart for our home. (Proverbs 24:3-4)
  • It’s by meditating on God’s word that we receive wisdom and discernment in matters pertaining to family life. (James 1:5-6)

So while I never got clear cut answers to my questions, I did come to realize that the Bible is chock full of wisdom and guidance on matters pertaining to heart and home, and if I stay connected to the Giver of Wisdom, I will receive insight for my journey as a wife and mom.

Thankfully, I began to cultivate specific habits which brought life into my home.

But of all the habits I’ve learned to cultivate as a Christian wife and mom, there is one habit that stands out above the rest.

Honestly, it would not be an overstatement to say that if I don’t nurture this particular habit, I won’t have the heart, the inclination, or the power to live out the others.

And just what is that habit? It is to make my relationship with God my first priority!

No Christian mom is going to excel in marriage and motherhood without walking closely with God.


The only reason I care as much as I do about being a godly wife and mom, is because of the work of the Holy Spirit in my life. (Romans 8:29)

→ The reason I know what my standard should be as a wife and mom is by looking into the mirror of God’s word. (James 1:22-25)

→ The reason I’m  able to get back up and keep going – after I’ve been emotionally knocked down by storms of life – is because God’s word challenges me and the Holy Spirit empowers me. (Matthew 7:24-27)

→ The reason I haven’t lost the most valuable relationships in my life – that of my family – is because I’ve learned to forgive, over and over. (Matthew 18:21-22)

Are you noticing a pattern here?

I’ve already confessed on this blog that I am a X-Psycho Mom and recovering family-life-flunky, who would have lost everything, if it were not for Jesus!

Jesus is my secret sauce. Period!

People talk about needing their morning cup of coffee like it’s a drug. Well, I need my morning cup of Jesus because I am one Bible scripture and one prayer away from being that mom who flew over the cuckoo’s nest. And there’s no shame in my game about admitting it.

So I nurse my relationship with God daily because Psycho Mom is NOT a pretty person, and my husband doesn’t like casting out spirits. 😉

I keep her at bay by spending time with God in prayer and worship, and by establishing the daily habit of reading my Bible.

Bottom line: my husband gets a better wife, and my children get a better mom when I give God his rightful place in my heart and my day.

Remember: The key to experiencing God’s love, peace, and joy in our home – the key to thriving in marriage and motherhood like a BOSS! – is by making God our first priority.

“O God, thou art my God; early will I seek thee: my soul thirsteth for thee, my flesh longeth for thee in a dry and thirsty land, where no water is;” (Psalm 63:1, KJV)


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  1. God is the beautiful center for all of our relationships and how we live our lives. Thank you for sharing how this has made a difference in your marriage and motherhood. I know it has made all the difference for me.

    • I so agree, Mary, God is the beautiful center of it all – if only we allow Him to be. Thank you for stopping by. I appreciate linking up with you.

  2. You’re so right, Tiffiney. It all comes back to our Jesus relationship. I kept thinking while reading your post how your takeaway applies to pretty much all of our lives, but specifically it was speaking to me about blogging today. The best thing for anything we do is a better relationship with Jesus for the sake of knowing Him. Thank you for the reminder today. Great post.

    • Hey Patsy, this habit definitly applies to every area of our lives, especially as bloggers. Glad you enjoyed the post. Thank you for stopping by!

  3. It’s the way of the cross – focus on the vertical relationship with God, so you can deal with your horizontal relationships. A good true word here.
    Stopping by from a linkup

    • Oh my goodness, Nysle! I just experienced that this morning. (I wasn’t the best version of myself.) 🙁 It’s amazing how much the vertical affects the horizontal.

  4. Love your posts, Tiffiney! You hit the nail on the head. I could write so much on how I agree with you, but maybe I will save that for a future blog post : )

  5. Yes! This is so good, Tiffiney! I would be a terrible wife and mom if not for the work of the Holy Spirit in my heart and mind. I have learned so much about my role in the family through His Word. (A big lesson is to hold my tongue and pray instead of “preaching” at my husband!) Thanks for sharing!

    • Hey Jana, that’s been a tough lesson for me to learn as well. I’m not doing it perfectly, but I’m better than I used to be at it. Thanks for stopping by.

  6. Wisdom is definitely found in Christ. I appreciate your perspective, Tiffiney. The closer we can stay to God, being aware of his presence, the more transformed into the image of him we will become. It’s a win-win for everyone around us too. 🙂

  7. I wholeheartedly agree, Tiffiney! I know I would have divorced my husband and my life would have gone off the rails if it weren’t for the Lord working in my heart through His word. His Spirit has taught me so much when I didn’t know what steps to take next and His guidance and conviction has kept me from making huge mistakes like filing for divorce. Thanks for reminding us about where to look and lean, my friend! I’ll be pinning and tweeting!

    • I love your transparency and honesty, Beth. It’s so easy for us to “go off the rails” when we take our eyes off God. I’m so thankful that he kept us both from derailing.? Where would we be without Him? Missed you, friend!

  8. Amen, sister! Putting God first makes everything else fall into place in a more orderly fashion. May His Kingdom come and His will be done in our families as it is in Heaven.

  9. I completely understand all of this. I feel like I am one step away from being “that mom” all the time. I do my best to keep God at the center. Thank you for this!

    • Brittany, you had me at: I am one step away from being “that mom” too. We are kindred spirits! Good seeing you here on my blog. Especially your daughter’s beautiful face. 🙂

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