Mother’s Day has come and gone, and I am pleased to announce that Psycho-Mom did not make an appearance!
Turns out that I am not that different from Bruce Banner, who works hard to keep his alter ego – Marvel Comics Superhero, The Hulk – at bay when he is subjected to emotional stress.
Granted, I still attend a 12-Step Program for Psycho-Moms in recovery; and yes, I brought (most of) my own gifts and balloons, but I digress. Overall things went swimmingly! And not once did I hide in a clothing rack!
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Here is one of the Mom’s Day mugs I bought myself . . .
I love this mug for its simple, yet bold message; but its truth can be a hard pill to swallow! It is a reminder that parenting isn’t for cowards.
I wish I could Photoshop a beautiful background behind this mug for aesthetic purposes, but I don’t know how to, so I’ll have to “keep-it-real” and let the truth of this picture stand.
And so be it, because this picture represents our lives as moms: It displays how the everyday, nitty-gritty reality of our circumstances meets the truth of God’s word – HEAD ON!
- the fact that I need God’s word to help me start my day,
- that I need God’s wisdom to be a godly wife and mom, and
- that I know where my help comes from – “my help comes from the Lord!” (Psalm 121:2)
But even though I know all of that – and I daily sip my coffee from one of my favorite mugs, as God’s word washes over my heart – this motherhood gig is still hard!
It’s hard because over the years I’ve discovered that “sissy parenting” is intuitive to my nature. I have learned that I am a conflict averse, peace maker; and while that might sound good in theory, it doesn’t play out very well in the home where healthy conflict can not and should not be avoided.
Actually, the more I think about it, the more I see a pattern beginning to emerge. Once upon a time:
- I hid beside my bed, bawling my eyes out, in a fetal position because I couldn’t cope with parenting, and
- I hid inside of a clothing rack in Walmart because I had a Mother’s Day meltdown.
Apparently, I’m expert at avoidance and I do not handle emotional stress well. In general, that makes me a conflict averse, emotional wreck of a Sissy Mom!
Conflict? Emotional stress? NOPE!!
Thankfully, that’s not where my story ends.
I may have started out in family-life as a sniveling, weak, scardy cat of a mom, but because of God’s Word, prayer, the sanctifying process of the Holy Spirit, and the support and counseling of the Body of Christ, I’ve come a long way in my marriage and parenting journey.
I am not the mom I used to be. To God be the Glory!
And this is the because of the redemptive work of my savior, Jesus Christ, in my life.
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Here’s the low down, Yo!
›The problems that we face daily as wives and moms – they are no match for the wisdom that we receive from God’s word.
›The frustrations we face in family life – they can not overcome a wife or mom who is filled with the Holy Spirit and is looking to the Lord for wisdom in her family affairs.
Now, because of the redemptive work of the Cross – this is the new me (on most days – minus the arthritis) . . .
Bam! Kapow! Take that, nitty-gritty life! (Sorry, I just had to!)
This work of God – that first transformed my heart, and then impacted my family – certainly did not happen over night.
Though my salvation was instant, it took years for the Holy Spirit to weed out many behaviors in my life that did not please Him, and consequently helped to tear down my home: anger, fits of rage, a heart of rebellion (not submitting to my husband), and (sadly) much more – and the sanctification process is still ongoing.
But I’m so grateful that God never quit on me, and He continues to prune me so that I become more like His son, Jesus Christ every day. And if He did it for me, He’ll do it for you, because He does not show favoritism (Acts 10:34).
- I’m not really Cat Woman…I’m definitely more like that arthritic, sword wielding cat. But over the years I have grown spiritually and have seen God do a marvelous work of restoration in my family. You can click here to read more about that.
- If you would like to flourish in family life, then get to know the Designer of the family and His instruction manual for family life. It all starts with a personal relationship with His son, Jesus Christ.
- My relationship with Jesus Christ changed my life in every way. Without Christ, I would have lost my marriage and the family that I’m blessed with today. To read my testimony about how God got a hold of my heart, click here.
Thank you for joining me for Testimony Tuesday!
My life verse: “Who am I, Sovereign Lord, and what is my family, that you have brought
me [us] this far? – 2 Samuel 7:18
Holla Back, Ladies: Do you identify with the lion in the GIF, or the sword wielding cat? Do you have a testimony of how God has moved in your family’s life? Post a comment below to share. I’d love to hear from you!
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Definitely the lion! I need Jesus! It’s so exhausting, the effort I make to avoid confrontation. Thanks for this reminder, Tiffiney. Blessings to you.
Linda Stoll says
Yeah, we’re not who we were, Tiffiney.
And that, in and of itself is sheer grace, isn’t it. And something worth celebrating!
We made in through Mother’s Day. And there were brighter spots than we expected …
Lol so enjoyed this Tiffiney! Praising God for that work of sanctification and taking it all with joy. Have a great weekend! 🙂
Laura Ingalls Gunn says
I absolutely loved this post and reading about your Mother’s Day meltdown. I’ve been there. Given that my own mother has passed on adds salt to the wound. But I decided last year to start buying my own gifts and gently encouraging my husband to pick up dinner. Do I wish it was different? Perhaps. But not everyone’s love language is buying gifts. So I try to look for other ways I am blessed and it has helped tremendously. May your spring be filled with joy and sunshine!
I love what you said, Laura, about GENTLY encouraging your husband to pick up dinner and buying your own gifts. You know, we can play a role in our own happiness, LOL! And you’re so right, we all speak love differently, so it’s best to give our family members grace and be thankful for all that we have. Wishing you a bouquet of joy this spring!
Michele Morin says
The mug speaks truth!
Thanks be to God that He is with us through the chaos and the long days, lending us HIS strength, patience, and grace!
Strength, patience, and grace – I’ll have another cup of that with my coffee, please! 🙂
I have often had the same thought – being a mom is NOT for sissies! It doesn’t get any easier when your children are grown and out of the house either! Thank you for a great read!
Grown and out of the house is sometimes when the real “nitty-gritty” parenting party begins. LOL! 🙂
Such a fun, inspiring read, Tiffiney! Yep, I’m so grateful for a God who doesn’t quit on me, because I’ve been there and I’m still there sometimes, but He keeps on pruning me. I can actually see the fruit of my obedience to Him in so many ways and for that I’m grateful. Thankful for His strength and patience.
Hey Carlie! Seeing the fruit of our obedience to God is definitely a wonderful by product of our Christian walk. Thanks for stopping by!